InI Didn’t Work This Hard Just to Get Married, through lively andrevealing interviews with women from various walks of life, Nika Beamonexplores the challenges and issues affecting single black women whodefy expectations. Among the women who share their stories in the book:Actress Kim Coles, Movie Producer Effie T. Brown ('Real Women HaveCurves') and Interior Designer Sheila Bridges.
Allof the women in I Didn't Work This Hard Just to Get Married candidlydiscuss aging without a man and reevaluate dating, singlehomeownership, career, and children. The book speaks directly to theblack woman's experience, addressing unique challenges such as incomediscrepancies between genders, the high rate of male incarceration, andthe Baby Momma Syndrome. The women discuss the false expectations theyface from men, from families, and from friends.
Writtenin the best tradition of girlfriend talking to girlfriend, the bookdelivers tales of lessons learned, hard times and good times, told bywomen who found ways to achieve their dreams by defying convention.Their conclusion: singlehood, whether temporary or permanent, andthough often challenging, is a fulfilling state.
Praise and Reviews
I Didn’t Work This Hard was really positively reviewed in the April 1 issue of Booklist (circ. 24,150). The complete review follows:
I Didn't Work This Hard Just to Get Married (Chicago Review Press, ISBN: 9781556528194)
“Despite the continued
cultural emphasis on marriage, 70 percent of black women will live
their lives as singles--widowed and divorced, but mostly never married.
Whether this statistic is viewed as good, bad, or indifferent depends
on a woman's individual perspective. Beamon, a television news
writer-producer, presents interviews with 21 successful black women
fully enjoying singlehood with a range of opinions on their marriage
prospects. Among the women interviewed are actress Kim Coles, author
Deborah Gregory (of Cheetah Girls fame), movie producer Effie Brown,
and an assortment of other professionals. The women applaud the
television shows Living Single and Girlfriends for
depictions of beautiful and successful single black women, and discuss
the sometimes negative images of black women and the impact of the high
unemployment and incarceration rates of black men on marriage
prospects. Mostly, they recount their own personal journeys to
accepting, enjoying, and capitalizing on their times as single women.
Though written from black women's perspectives, this book has appeal
for all women looking for a fresh take on being single.”
“…I Didn’t Work
This Hard Just To Get Married is filled with statistics, great
information and details on how society views black women and our
obligations to our children, families, and communities. We are also
privy to some quirky tales of marriages gone wrong, single parenting, baby-mama drama and much more…
This book is for women of all ages; women who believe
their clocks are ticking and are running out of time. Women who feel
like they need a man to define them, you will definitely enjoy this
book from cover-to-cover as you take this journey into finding
yourself.”
Reviewed by: Cheryl Hayes, APOOO BookClub
"What an incredibly
liberating and inspiring collection of stories...about learning to be
comfortable in your skin and what u got –and that we are not alone in
our journey. Thank you Nika for this gift."
Terrie M. Williams
Author, Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We're Not Hurting
"This is an
exciting book that fully explores the option of single status and the
lives of the women who choose it… Nika Beamon gives women making life
choices a window into the thought processes of other women who have
made similar choices. It is an important addition to work on the lives and options of African American women, and it is an absorbing read."
Julianne Malveaux
President, BennettCollege for Women
"Although I am an
award-winning filmmaker, TV personality and author, many of my family
members feel as though I lead a shallow and empty life because I choose
to be unmarried without children. In this well-researched and
thoughtful tome, Nika Beamon has given a voice to true choice among
women in this post-millennial era."
Abiola Abrams, BET host
Author of the novel, Dare