Healing Through the Shadow of Loss

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By Deborah Morris Coryell

Publisher : Inner Traditions/Bear & Company

ABOUT Deborah Morris Coryell

Deborah Morris Coryell
Deborah Morris Coryell has worked in the health field developing wellness programs since 1974. She founded the Wellness Education Department for Canyon Ranch Spa Resorts as well as for the Pritikin Longevity Center. She is a visiting faculty member for Dr. Andrew Weil’s program in In More...



A guide to achieving wholeness through the process and purpose of grief 

• Brings new understanding to the profound mystery of loss shared by all human beings

• Offers sensitive and practical advice for experiencing grief and how to prepare for the healing journey that follows

• Winner of the Independent Publisher Award in 1999

• New edition of Good Grief, published Oct 1995

We grieve only for that which we have loved, and the transient nature of life makes love and loss intimate companions. In Healing Through the Shadow of Loss Deborah Morris Coryell describes grief as the experience of not having anywhere to place our love, of losing a connection, an outlet for our emotion. To heal grief we have to learn how to continue to love in the face of loss. Embracing loss allows us to awaken our most profound connections to other people.

Part of the grieving process is finding our place in the world again following a loss. We tend to define ourselves in relation to those we love--as “Laura’s mother,” “Jim’s wife,” or “Stacey’s friend.” The loss of a loved one is jarring to these foundations and can make us question our own sense of reality. In addition, the body must adjust to the sensory changes of having lost a part of our life, a part of our daily existence. Coryell draws attention to our society’s tendency to rank losses in a “hierarchy of grief.” She reminds us that all losses must be grieved in their own right and on their own terms, and that we must honor the “big” losses as well as the “small” ones. Paying attention to even the most minute experiences of loss can help us to be more in tune with our responses to the greater ones, allowing us to once again become part of the rhythm of life from which we have become disconnected.

“An insightful and compassionate guide to one of life’s essential growth processes. Grieving is not to penalize us; it is love’s healing work for loss.”
Rabbi Zalman M. Schachter-Shalomi, coauthor of From Age-ing to Sage-ing

“Helps families deal with grief in a way that is nurturing, honoring, and life-affirming.”
Gershon Winkler, director of the Walking Stick Foundation and author of The Way of the Boundary Crosser

". . . a guide to achieving wholeness through the process and purpose of grief and brings a new understanding to the profound mystery of loss shared by all human beings."
Totalhealth, Vol. 26 No. 4

"This slim yet powerful book will help readers to not just deal with grief, but also to benefit from it."
Whole Body & Living Soul, October 2004

"[For] people who are dealing with grief or who are going through other major life transitions. I draw upon Deborah Coryell's wisdom and expertise and recommend Healing Through the Shadow of Loss as a resource for both patients and physicians."
Andrew Weil, M.D.

"Coryell has written a compassionate and quietly inspiring book explaining why we should grieve, how to grieve without getting lost in despair, and what healing can occur when you grieve. . . . I highly recommend this book. It's exceptionally well-written, with a gentleness and strength that supports those experiencing loss, as well as their friends and family members who wish to help, but need direction to do so."
Karen Phillippi, The Beltane Papers, Issue 35, Oct 2005