A Spirituality of Hope: My Journey Through Pain and Grief

ABOUT Debby Chaddick

Debby Chaddick
Debby Chaddick, a psychology teacher in Southern California, is an acknowledged Claes Nobel Educator of Distinction. She and her husband enjoy traveling internationally with her students each summer, and together on their newest family addition, a Harley Davidson Road King. She is the moth More...


A Spirituality of Hope: My Journey through Pain and Grief is a story of authentic hope, not the pseudo-spirituality so many of us are tired of hearing from an organized religious-behavioral system. I wish to offer genuine hope to those who have felt pushed aside, discounted or judged. In addition, I dispel many of the myths we have been taught that lead to failure, guilt and hopelessness, and exchange them for that which produces growth, peace and hope.

If you are not a person who suffers with pain, loss, disappointment or sorrow, this book may not be for you. This message is for those who have experienced all-encompassing grief, or who live with chronic illnesses. These words are meant for those who have found mind-numbing pain, and its twinâfatigue, their constant companions. I am writing to those who have tried every medical âcureâ there is, only to be greeted by disillusionment once again. (If you are not one of these people, you are welcome to observe. I invite you to learn how you might offer aid to those who suffer.) It is my prayer that you, who relate to these circumstances, feel embraced by one who suffers, yet remains determined to find joy. If we were honest, though, some days we would just settle for ânormalâ, wouldnât we? Our hearts cry out for a safe environment in which to simply be, a place where we can be real, where we can be honest. We need to be able to express not only our confusion and dismay, but also the joy at what we are learning. We need an environment of unconditional acceptance, for our discoveries of meaning and significance are molding us into a new creationâtruly a lonely process, and frightening for all involved. We are becoming authentic and need a place where we are received just as we are while on this passage. We need a place where we can try to make sense of this new journey and find meaning in our suffering. I honestly do not know a single soul that would not benefit from such a place in their lives. Can we find such a place?

Dear Mrs. Chaddick, Your love and compassion for others has inspired me to reach out to others and even develop this desire to tell everyone everywhere that they are always loved! There is a light to you. I saw it instantly. As a spiritual person, I will say I see God's love in you. You have helped me to become more aware of the problems around the world, the reality that there is always something we can all do to help one another. I know for a fact that I don't speak alone when I say, you have given me hope; there are really people in this world who are able to show the truest love to everyone even if it is unintentional. â¦the personal stories you shared moved me. You are such a strong person. It takes a very strong character to accept something one cannot control and use it to make a difference. One of the things you said that I will always remember is: "We can learn to heal others with our own pain." You are so right! It is funny because during that time when you talked about that specific subject, I was going through a very hard time emotionally. My heart was in so much pain. However, when I stepped into your classroom, I was reminded that even though we all go through very hard times, with a positive attitude and a good sense of humor, we can really get through anything


"I love every word that I've read, and every memory/thought that those words have evoked, hard as they may be. I felt compelled to write this because I want you to know that your words, your journey, your book, your thoughtfulness, your kindness, and your love, have made a difference in my life. A difference for the future. For right now. Because on this day that nothing mattered to me, your book meant everything to me. Your words and journey are powerful, meaningful, real."


"You have inspired me. Thank you."


"Thank you for being you...."


"I have lived in chronic pain for over 20 years now.... It's so nice to know someone else can understand what you are going through."